Comments for Assertive Spirituality http://assertivespirituality.com Because Sometimes We Stay Lost if We Stay Quiet Thu, 12 Sep 2019 16:31:38 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.3 Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by Graham Key http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15543 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 16:31:38 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15543 The political situation you describe in the States is so markedly mirrored by eh what is going on here in the UK with the chaos of Brexit being led by a PM who resembles your President, even in his appearance as well as his erratic behavior. Your words resonate with me and I’d like to be part of your mailing group.

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Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by Martha J Horn http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15535 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 13:27:29 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15535 Strong piece, DS! And I agree!
I especially liked the paragraph:
“So may those who have ears to hear, let them hear. And if that’s not everyone, I shall grieve that outcome, but that’s how it goes sometimes. Sigh. Doing what we can means giving up the false beliefs that we can “reach” everyone, however much I hate that.”

Let’s keep fighting the good fight!

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Comment on In Praise of Empathetic Anger; Or, Toward Healthy Anger Understandings by DS Leiter http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/31/in-praise-empathetic-anger-enacting-healthy-anger/#comment-15532 Mon, 09 Sep 2019 03:08:12 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=920#comment-15532 Ooh, I really like that distinction. That seems like clearer language.

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Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by DS Leiter http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15531 Sun, 08 Sep 2019 13:22:01 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15531 Absolutely I can do that, and just re-sent it to your inbox. Thanks for checking in! I hope you find it useful! Cheers, DS Leiter

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Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by Linda http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15530 Sun, 08 Sep 2019 13:02:14 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15530 Please send me the assertive spirituality guide. I am subscribed to your newsletter. Thanks for your words

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Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by DS Leiter http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15529 Sun, 08 Sep 2019 12:35:15 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15529 I’m so glad to hear this! Welcome! It’s wayyyyy better when we all undertake these efforts together. Keep speaking up against unhealthy patterns in the world. Go team #AssertiveSpirituality!

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Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by Nora http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15527 Sun, 08 Sep 2019 11:09:42 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15527 Stoopid autocorrect. Status quo…..

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Comment on Unwrapping a Healthy Spirituality of Competition; Or, Why I’m Not Working to Persuade Conservatives by Nora http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/09/08/why-not-persuade-conservatives-these-days/#comment-15526 Sun, 08 Sep 2019 11:08:41 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=930#comment-15526 This is exactly what I needed right now. I’ve been on a similar path of assertively fight back against a status quote that must be confronted. And now I have found the support that I need.
Thanks!

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Comment on In Praise of Empathetic Anger; Or, Toward Healthy Anger Understandings by John McNeill http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/31/in-praise-empathetic-anger-enacting-healthy-anger/#comment-15521 Fri, 06 Sep 2019 14:57:46 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=920#comment-15521 Well put!

Actually, now that I think about it, we could distinguish between “moral icon” (good) and “moral idol” (bad).
Pardon my dualism.

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Comment on In Praise of Empathetic Anger; Or, Toward Healthy Anger Understandings by Sandy zTracy http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/31/in-praise-empathetic-anger-enacting-healthy-anger/#comment-15459 Thu, 05 Sep 2019 15:03:39 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=920#comment-15459 Thank you for sharing more about yourself. Your descriptions speak to my heart and I am definitely on your team. Stay in touch.

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Comment on In Praise of Empathetic Anger; Or, Toward Healthy Anger Understandings by DS Leiter http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/31/in-praise-empathetic-anger-enacting-healthy-anger/#comment-15344 Wed, 04 Sep 2019 03:32:10 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=920#comment-15344 Thanks so much for the compliments and especially the thoughtful reflection. I really like the term moral icon–though I don’t think keeping something as a moral icon has to be a negative thing, despite my heavily Protestant background. 😉 I think it is the negative valence you describe when it becomes a shield from connection when there genuinely is repentance, as Germany has shown–but it feels like if it becomes what you describe, it’s like the empathy gets so frozen that it becomes joined with a hatred in stasis, which sort of becomes a different category in my eyes, since it may have lost the focus of fixing ongoing problems a little bit. You make a great point, though–the danger is that active and useful empathetic anger may go down that road if left for too long.

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Comment on In Praise of Empathetic Anger; Or, Toward Healthy Anger Understandings by John McNeill http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/31/in-praise-empathetic-anger-enacting-healthy-anger/#comment-15311 Tue, 03 Sep 2019 17:10:08 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=920#comment-15311 I love your stuff and I find it helpful.

One thing I would say about empathetic anger is that there is sometimes a danger of our anger on behalf of another becoming harmful to ourselves and others because of our sense that it is protecting/helping another and somehow we give ourselves greater license to be more disruptive. Anger on behalf of ourselves is sometimes restrained by our guarding against self-centeredness. Empathetic anger does not always have the same boundaries.

An example: Long ago I heard a gentile say that they would never go to Germany or buy German products because of what the Germans did to the Jews. Sounds like anger kept as a kind of moral icon. Not healthy.

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Comment on In Praise of Empathetic Anger; Or, Toward Healthy Anger Understandings by Catherine White http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/31/in-praise-empathetic-anger-enacting-healthy-anger/#comment-15152 Sun, 01 Sep 2019 22:26:25 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=920#comment-15152 Nice explanation and I am all over that, sometimes I feel too complacent because I try to handle conflict in a more gentle way but the world is turning into such an unkind and uncompassionate place, gentle isnt doing the job so we need to start using a more authorative tone to get our point across. Peace & harmony to all.

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Comment on When “Christian Nice” Gets Mean about Forgiveness by Colleen http://assertivespirituality.com/2019/08/11/christian-nice-mean-about-forgiveness/#comment-15106 Fri, 30 Aug 2019 13:32:21 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=909#comment-15106 I love this, thank you. As one who has been abused being raised in a dysfunctional family, Christian background that didn’t match, I could not reconcile so many contradictions. Became a walking contradiction myself. I appreciate learning to think more logically as it undoes the incorrect thinking patterns that I learned and helps me heal or balance both hemispheres even more so, lol. Correct the mind and all else follows, I think is the quote from Lao Tzu.

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Comment on Stress and Conflict; Or, Why We All are So on Edge by DS Leiter http://assertivespirituality.com/2018/12/22/stress-and-conflict-on-edge/#comment-15063 Sun, 25 Aug 2019 18:55:09 +0000 http://assertivespirituality.com/?p=640#comment-15063 Thanks so much! Yes, I re-ran it in the newsletter this week because I was feeling similarly and noticed it in a lot of those around me as well–and was struggling with a bug so wasn’t up to writing a new one. Hang in there as well, friend!

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